Sexuality and aging
In the same way there are differences in how each of us will age, changes in sexuality also vary from person to person.
As someone ages, their amount of sexual activity may decrease, but their amount of sexual interest and ability remain almost the same. Most older men and women want and are able to enjoy an active, satisfying sex life.
What normal changes happen as we age?
- There may be a drop in estrogen levels (a hormone) that may cause the vagina to become drier and be less elastic.
- Orgasms can be less intense, and sexual arousal can drop more quickly after orgasm.
- Erections may happen more slowly, can be less full, and fade more quickly after orgasm.
- Less sperm can be produced, and it might “leak out” of the penis, rather than being ejaculated (squirting).
- Some people may feel worried and have reduced self-confidence due to concerns about their appearance. This can be especially true in societies that value youthfulness.
What other factors impact the sex life of older adults?
- excessive use of alcohol
- grieving
- prescription medications
- living with chronic medical diseases
- surgical procedures
Options for intimacy
Many older adults find that they have more time to give to their partners—especially those who are free from the pressures of careers and family.
There is much more to healthy sexuality than just intercourse. Older adults have the experience and leisure time to enjoy many forms of intimacy, ranging from holding hands and kissing, to masturbating and having oral sex.
Understanding that there are options for sexual activity that are acceptable and pleasurable can greatly enrich sexual expression. Understanding that sexuality is normal and natural as we age is liberating and can help us to take steps to improve our sex lives.
Sexual Orientation
Understanding your sexual orientation can happen at any time, and may change during your life. Feelings of attraction can be confusing—this is quite normal. There is no time limit on discovering your sexual orientation. Learn to trust what feels right to you.
Sexual Health remains part of our overall health as we age. With sexual activity, comes the risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI) and other concerns. The sexual health clinic is available to discuss your sexual health questions, as well as provide testing and treatment. For questions regarding sexual health, or book an appointment at our sexual health clinic, please contact us.
Links
- Good Sexual Health
- Sexually Transmitted Infections
- Online Dating Safety
- Homophobia
- Consent
- Setting Boundaries
- Partner Sexual History
- Sex and Seniors: A Perspective (Canadian Public Health Association)
This item was last modified on August 13, 2024